I have been in a home school tailspin the last 2 weeks. There are days you feel like you are not moving forward, like you are standing still, repeating yourself over and over again. I loose a little focus, combat thoughts of irreversibly screwing my kids up, and wonder if I am giving them enough food for thought. This is a VERY common phenomenon among homeschooling moms. I steered clear of this my first year, but mid way through my second I have walked headlong into the “swamp of despond”. I used to hear Mom’s who homeschool say this, and wonder about it. From my take, their kids were great, well adjusted, and well rounded, from their take, they were missing the mark.

Little clue phone about me. I like doing things “right” and I like it even better when I do them well. So lately I’ve been hearing the Holy Spirit knock on my heart about this whole homeschool thing. Would I be willing to lay it down, if He said so. What? That was a something shocking for me to hear. Then over the past few weeks, God has been reminding me that this is his journey with the kids that is a gift to me. NOT something that I can “hit out of the park” so to speak.
I get to be a part of watching them unfold before him, I get to pray into it, I get to let them make mistakes, and learn how to be okay with things not being perfect. I get to listen to the Father every day, and follow his lead, not my plan for them. I let go of having a clean house years ago, marriage and kids forced me to do that, but now I am letting go of having perfect kids, and the reality is, there is NO perfect homeschool.
Ahh, yes I said, I am not perfect, they are not perfect, my lesson plans are not perfect. I have loud kids and my boys are ALL boys. They climb, they wrestle and punch. I have no yard for them to go dig, we don’t live on a farm, so the hours of day that are not filled with school time, are filled with me working on how to engage them without having a farm to do it in. Most days I fail miserably at it. A girl can only drive around so much taking her kids to a park to play. I am tired of the pressure I put on myself for how my kids, especially my youngest should act. It is hard being the youngest in every situation he is ever in. Church, family life, school etc. The further I go down this home school path, I realize it is so much more about me than it is about them. If I am willing to be stretched and change and trust God in this whole process, then we all will be better for it on the other side.
I am re-reading my homeschool philosophy and letting God speak to me in those places I want to control. Ouch! I am letting go, I am giving myself grace, I am loving my kids right where they are, and I am trusting that God has my back.
Grace and Peace to all Homeschool Mom’s today.