Daily Rythms
August 15th, 2007

I spoke awhile back about me learning how to have Sabbath in the midst of child training , homeschooling, house tending etc. etc. etc. Finding daily quiet in my life for my own “souls formation.” This has been a process of learning something new. I will say it has been very revealing. I don’t presume to have this all together or even, that what God is leading me into is right for you in your current situation. People who “know all the right answers and have it all together”, wear me out. So you wont get that here, just an honest look at what I am now doing and how it is freeing me up and slowing me down. Firstly, let me start by saying that I see what I am doing in our home and with our children as my job or business. Have no fear, I do not think of it that clinically. It is just one way for me to block things out in my mind. I have the type of personality that really gives my all to the task at hand. In business, you track and chart everything so as to improve your overall objective. So I am also, tracking and charting myself in this arena as well. It is simply a way for me to have more information about what is exactly going on in any given day and where we can make slight changes to improve or be more free. Read on because that statement will make since in a moment.
The first thing I addressed was the need for some “me” time without anyone else around. Just me, my thoughts and God. I realized in our family dynamic, I needed to wake early in the morning in order to carve that space out. Now I wake before the family at 5 to be exact. That means that my bedtime is pretty firm at 10 as well. You may think that sounds intense or harsh, but the space it creates for my soul is crucial to doing well in every area of my life. I now see this. It is a good thing.
The second thing I addressed was my house work. In order for me to think straight, I need to have an environment that is peaceful and non chaotic. Three kids is chaos enough:-) So I have gone to work on coming up with a system to better handle the chores of our home. I affectionately call it the zone system. I basically have found a rhythm of doing a small amount of laundry and deep cleaning 4-5 days a week. It has taken all of the stress out of the upkeep. It allows me to give around 30 minutes a day of my best to cleaning and then leaving everything else go until another day. Teaching and training the children in daily household upkeep is part of our formation as a family who “stays home” together.
The third thing I have addressed was my own personal “up keep”. Working out has been the one “negotiable” spot in my life. It always got pushed to the side in lieu of everyone else needs. It is no longer negotiable. I have to work out 5-6 days a week, just for me. Charlotte Mason refers to it as “mother culture”. I call it just plain smart. A cranky, out of shape, overwhelmed Mommy is no good for anyone especially herself. This is where I see the daily consistency bear fruit over a long period of time. It is an outward symbol of inner workings.
These three things in combination open up the space in my life to just be. Because I have already determined in my mind, when and how I will be faithful to daily tasks, I am open to hearing, being, moving etc. etc in line with what God is doing at any given moment. This opens up the space for me to home school without stress or pressure on myself. There isn’t anything else I should be doing. I am not guilty or resentful because I haven’t taken care of me. I am free. This is where you will hear me say over and over. FREEDOM WITHIN STRUCTURE!
So what does it look like you may ask? Tune in tomorrow to see how it pragmatically works out in my life.
Entry Filed under: Work at Home, mommy stuff, Simple Faith, Homeschool, housekeeping, Family, Friends, Life



3 Comments
Add your own1. Summer | August 15th, 2007 at 7:07 pm
You’re right, getting a rhythm like that is so important. It certainly helps to keep off the mommy stress. I get up a bit early each morning for some quiet reflection before the boys wake up. I can certainly tell the days I don’t as I feel so overwhelmed. And I do my cleaning in tiny pieces. 15 minutes here, 30 minutes there. I don’t feel as frustrated and I can keep the house clean.
2. amanda | August 15th, 2007 at 7:26 pm
Perhaps you’ll be answering this tomorrow, but what do you do for exercise? We joined the YMCA which has been so good for our family, but we only make it there at most 3 times per week.
I am so glad that I can come here without having to “know all the right answers and have it all together” because I am still learning and growing too.
Love the attitude. =)
amanda
3. admin | August 15th, 2007 at 8:19 pm
Thanks Amanda - I will answer it tomorrow. The one benefit to living in a suburban development is a fully furnished gym that is 100 yards from our front door and is the communities gym. It is vacant at 5:45 and we have our own personal quiet zone.
I’ll be praying for ya tomorrow early.
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